- Darshan Mondkar
“I still don’t understand why people have to get married. If you want to have a person in your life, why do you have to sign marriage papers, why can’t it be a partnership”, asks Malala Yousafzai in an interview in Vogue magazine.
I don’t really understand the brouhaha caused by this seemingly rhetoric question made by the young lady. So maybe Malala does not think marriage is important. Isn’t that entirely her choice and her way of looking at her life and how she chooses to lead it? Why exactly is she being dragged over hot coals for her view of her life?
After all, marriage is but a social contract. You don’t need contracts, social or otherwise to spend your life with a person of your choice. All you need is a mutual consent, simply said or implied by actions. What the marriage does entail, however is the legal benefits that come with it, the inheritance, the legitimacy, the alimony if such a case arises, the next of kin status TO BOTH PARTIES. If one is not bothered about this then you really don’t have to get into the social contract of marriage.
Of course, Malala probably doesn’t realize that a “Partnership” is also a contract. You have to sign papers, you have to get them registered and you have to think of the commercials and the exit clauses. So, perhaps she didn’t mean “Partnership” in that sense. Without signing any papers, any relationship, social, commercial or otherwise is merely based on mutual consent, which can be revoked at will without any consequences.
In such cases, the relationship ends the moment you choose to walk out of it and there are no obligations whatsoever on you or your partner for doing so. And if that’s what someone wants to choose, it’s their choice and it should be respected. She has hers, as you have your own. Disclaimer: Marriages are solemnized in the Courts…..relationships, in your heart.